Navigating the 'Messy Middle'
Sometimes we hit major roadblocks on our journeys. Sometimes, periods of transition take us unawares. Sometimes, it feels like the lives we’ve built are falling apart.
I call this the “messy middle.”
I’ve seen, first-hand, how a breakdown in one, or several areas of my life can derail us from the path we’ve plotted. I’ve moved to different continents, dealt with the dissolution of close relationships, experienced financial implosions, and the stress and depression that coincide with these world-shattering shocks.
I stand here uniquely able to say how much forming internal and external tethering points, by establishing healthy habits, grounding routines and nurturing relationships, can strengthen our internal worlds and empower us to live our best lives - no matter what happens. I coach heart centered visionaries navigate the 'messy middle'.
There are three things I want you to know when you are in the "Messy Middle":
1. There will be times that you will not be able to ‘keep it together’ no matter what anyone says. This is par for the course of growth and transformation. Give yourself permission to journey thru this and don’t try to numb these feelings. Keep a journal of your thoughts and emotions. It will feel like ‘flossing’ for your soul.
2. You will require support with decision-making because of all the inner feelings of self-doubt. Reach out to someone you trust and ask. It’s natural to feel inadequate and judged, but your task is to go beyond it. Reach out.
3. When you are feeling overwhelmed with multiple things going on in your head and are in a state of ‘funk’, do these two things:
Number one: Sit with your feet on the ground inhale for 6 seconds, hold your breath for 2 seconds, then exhale for 6 seconds. Repeat 4 times.
Number two: Once you’ve done the breathing exercise, take a sheet of paper or online notebook and make a list of the actions you are required to take. Next to each action, write down the pros and cons of moving ahead with the action and the pros and cons of not moving ahead. This will re-ground you and bring you back to the present, while diminishing the fear and anxiety you are facing.
I coach men and women who are visionaries. Their goals not only move their lives forward, but also lift up their communities. I give them tools, structures and support to take every aspect of their lives to higher levels of fulfillment, and help chart the course to bring their passions into the world in meaningful ways.